Baby Steps... are for babies.
Take a look at your life, the way it is, right now.
Are you happy or content with it?
Could you live the rest of your days basically do the same things you do now on a daily basis?
If you say yes, then excellent, you've done better than most people.
Good for you... as long as you are being honest with yourself.
In reality, I think the majority of people are not satisfied with their current situation, and probably most who feel that way will stay that way. After all, as you get older, you become more cemented into your routines and lifestyle. While you may dislike your job and have health and money problems, you can remain in a rut and never get out. This happens for different reasons.
Even though we may be in a rut, and not very satisfied, we can still find an odd comfort in our daily routine. It's safe, predictable, and so we cling to it, choosing to mask our general mental malaise with food, alcohol, drugs, watching TV, and maybe take part in some hobby or social activity. Perhaps some of those things do help us feel better in some way, and so we develop some not-so-good habits and watch our health slowly degrade.
Somewhere in your mid-40's to mid-50f's, perhaps it all catches up to you and boom! The next thing you know you find yourself with one or more ailments, like diabetes, heart disease, fatty liver, arthritis, gout, IBS, sleep apnea, bad knees, and so on. There you are, a big obese mess, and is that what you want? Of course not.
You reminisce about how fit and agile you once were and perhaps think, well, this is it. Maybe you convince yourself those days are gone. Think things like, I may as accept my reality that this is how I will be now and just make the best of it. I"ll just keep eating and drinking and smoking, even if it kills me, because that's I do, and I enjoy it, and I'm too old to change.
Ugh... nonsense and a terrible way to think. Why would anyone that such thoughts?
Well, one reason is that we are afraid of change.
We don't want to lose that odd comfort I mentioned earlier.
At the same time, many people will try to make changes to their health. A diet here, walking, or some cardio class there. Maybe join a gym. Yet those efforts are somehow fleeting and soon abandoned. Maybe you lost a bit of weight and felt good, but then gained it all back and now feel defeated?
That's par for the course in the game of life, so don't be disappointed.
At the same time, there is a way for you to find that happy and healthy life you deserve, and I'm going to tell you how. I'm qualified to tell you this because I am successful in this endeavor myself, not just in a short term way, but long term. I've been down the road of failures and disappointments, and I've learned what really works and what doesn't.
Here is what doesn't work - going to the gym, cardio classes, running/jogging, lifting weights, and diets. Those are just annoying bandaids we apply to the problem, but they are soon torn off.
Here is what does work - a lifestyle change.
The problem is, a lifestyle change is a big change. It's a process of self-analysis that allows you to identify the behaviors that support your bad habits or get in the way of good health. It involves eliminating the contributing factors in your environment that support your habits, and involves a little planning (not a lot really), and then executing multiple changes all at the same time. You are in fact, recreating yourself. This is how I found success, and I will actually share my own plan that I came up with, in my next post. You will see how simple it is, but for now, what you need to understand is that you will need to make some big changes in your life and you do have the ability to do it. You must overcome your fear of change and know it will be the best decision of your life.
If someone tells you "Oh, just do baby-steps." You say "No, baby-steps are for babies!" Then you run out and get a t-shirt that says that because you're a grown-ass adult with the capacity to successfully execute multiple concurrent changes quickly to improve your life.
You can do it and you will do it.
You just have to decide that you will change your life, and let nothing stand in your way. Once you do, then you will be empowered to begin a truly new and exciting journey.
Are you able to make such a commitment to yourself?
What are you waiting for?
Start writing things down the changes you want to see in your life and the activities that would support it. Your plan should target a life-long active lifestyle and no diets. Forget about diets. Just identify the healthy and unhealthy eating habits, eliminate the bad ones, and you will naturally lose weight as you shift your focus away from food and a sedentary existence. Then, write down the people, places, self-behaviors, bad habits, and the triggers that could sabotage each positive lifestyle change that you have identified. Then decide how you can eliminate those saboteurs. Solve the problem. For example, when I drink wine, I like to snack and eat junk food, so I stopped drinking wine. Saboteur eliminated. Of course, I still have a glass once in a while, and that's okay. It's no longer a bad habit. Maybe all your friends or family like to socialize around food making hard for you not to participate? That's a saboteur factor! Don't attend those events, or only attend them occasionally. Maybe offer to meet them for a coffee or at some activity-focused venue instead, like bowling or golfing, or walking dogs together. Or maybe find a new group to hang with that is more health focused. Whatever, these are just examples. You have to figure out what works for you.
So, get going and make a plan.